In this transformative episode of Ask Dr. Jodi, Dr. Jodi Aman and Lily discuss how to embrace personal growth and make the most of a fresh start in 2025. They dive into the power of New Year’s resolutions and beyond, offering insights on how to reset your mindset and navigate the challenges of overthinking. With practical tips like grounding techniques and strategies for overcoming the distractions of technology, this episode provides actionable steps to boost motivation and reclaim joy. Dr. Jodi highlights the importance of creating balance in your life, letting go of habits that no longer serve you, and fostering meaningful, in-person connections to enhance mental health. Whether you’re seeking to make changes in your relationships, routines, or self-care practices, this episode is packed with inspiration for embracing change and building a fulfilling life.
Welcome to Ask Dr. Jodi with Dr. Jodi Aman and Lily! In this episode, we explore how to embrace change, reclaim your personal power, and recharge for the year ahead. Whether you're starting fresh, tackling resolutions, or simply looking for inspiration, this conversation is filled with practical advice and encouragement for embracing "newness" at any point in the year.
Dr. Jodi and Lily discuss the importance of letting go, resetting, and crafting goals that align with your values. The episode covers seasonal opportunities for renewal, overcoming overthinking, and finding balance in routines. They also touch on generational struggles with motivation and technology, and the power of grounding techniques to reset your nervous system.
Dr. Jodi reminds us that change is always possible, no matter the challenges, and that trial and error is key to personal growth. Whether you’re setting resolutions or simply reflecting, this episode will inspire you to prioritize connection, joy, and self-compassion in 2025.
[00:00:00] Dr. Jodi Aman: Hey, welcome to Ask Dr. Jodi with me, Jodi Amen. And Lily. And Lily. Yeah. Today we're going to talk about feeling new or reclaiming a newness. If you don't like what's going on in your life inside your body, outside your body, in your mind, in your relationships, if there's anything that you want to change, I think what's most important that I know is that.
[00:00:27] Dr. Jodi Aman: Things are changeable. Like nothing ever stays the same. And so anytime I look at a new year, I think about, okay, what do I want to let go of? What do I want to bring more in? And how do I practice that? Practice keep letting that stuff go because it's not like you don't let stuff go and it's just gone.
[00:00:47] Dr. Jodi Aman: You have to let it go and then you have to practice and practice letting it go. And yeah, and I actually, I'm sorry, I don't mean to be talking so much, but actually I think about new year a couple times a year. I think about the new year in the beginning of September, because for so long as a student and then as a parent, I thought about that academic calendar as, you know, that was really the calendar.
[00:01:13] Dr. Jodi Aman: That was the beginning of the end of the summer and you kind of thought of new ways to be and you kind of have a resolution at the beginning of September, right? And then the new year, obviously the new year, and you're thinking because it's the calendar year and it's just an opportunity to do that again.
[00:01:28] Dr. Jodi Aman: And then always in the spring, I do that again.
[00:01:32] Lily: Why? I think it's a change of season. You had such a good reason for the other day.
[00:01:37] Dr. Jodi Aman: Well, you know. Maybe it's because it's my birthday. So my birthday is like the end. So I'm an Aries. So my birthday is the end of March and Aries. Like at all the times that was the beginning of the year, right?
[00:01:50] Dr. Jodi Aman: Because Aries is one on the chart. So on the astrology chart, Aries is one. And then Taurus is two, you know? So that was usually, that used to be the beginning of the year. Like winter was the end of the year. You know, how do you think of like summer as baby and then. Then, wait, no. Spring is baby, and then summer is like adolescence, and then fall is like adulthood, and then winter is like old age.
[00:02:16] Dr. Jodi Aman: Did you ever think of it like that? I guess. The seasons of life. Yeah, like
[00:02:19] Lily: the, like Well, that's just like the trees, right? Yeah.
[00:02:23] Dr. Jodi Aman: In the northern hemisphere. Yeah. The trees are baby buds. And then in the summer they're like vibrant and in involved in life. Like hot, yeah. Summer. And then in the fall it's like you get to see the beautiful colors if you're in the north anyway.
[00:02:40] Dr. Jodi Aman: And then in the winter, like you're resting, right? So this is wintering time resting. Actually, it's the next book up on my list is this book called wintering. And it's supposed to be really good at thinking about slowing down in the winter. But if you think about the wheel of the year, really the wintering is when you're reflecting on it all.
[00:02:58] Dr. Jodi Aman: So the beginning of the year in many. You know, in many cultures around the world is actually the spring, because that's like the beginning.
[00:03:07] Lily: But then you said there's a fourth time or just. Yeah,
[00:03:09] Dr. Jodi Aman: I, you know what, I mean, obviously the summer solstice, like if you think about connecting to the earth a little bit, you know, the summer solstice is also the beginning of the summer.
[00:03:17] Dr. Jodi Aman: And so when we make like our, whatever we want for the summer, what do we, you know, cause it's like a change in our schedule again, the schedule often changes. My schedule at work often changes in these seasons because my client's schedules change and so things shift or my kid's schedules change and so I change the days I'm available or the nights or whatever.
[00:03:36] Dr. Jodi Aman: And so this is always four times a year really there's this change. Anyway, so this is not the only opportunity but that really leads to what I want to talk about most tonight is that we have the opportunity to say, I don't like the way this is going and let me reset it. And I'm not being oblivious to the context of some people's lives that is so difficult and it makes it really hard.
[00:04:00] Dr. Jodi Aman: There's injustice that makes it harder for some people and that's not fair. And we have to do the work that we could do to undo that injustice as much as we can. We have to be aware of it. We have to undo it. But also there's this aspect of we affect that. So we have to do something about it. But we affect.
[00:04:20] Dr. Jodi Aman: Ourselves and how we think about things and what we, how we respond to stuff and how we, then how does that affect our relationships? That response that we have changes things pretty immediately in our life. Does that make sense?
[00:04:36] Lily: Yeah, but okay. Let's talk about New Year's revolution. Resolutions.
[00:04:40] Lily: Revolutions. That's
[00:04:41] Dr. Jodi Aman: what we need. It's a New Year's resol revolution is your name. A revolution. Yes. Resolutions. No,
[00:04:47] Lily: resolution.
[00:04:48] Dr. Jodi Aman: Wait. New Year You said We need a revolution. No, New Year's resolution. Okay, no,
[00:04:55] Lily: resolution. Whatever. That went on too long. Let's talk about it. It's not a good moment. Anyways.
[00:05:00] Lily: We're bantering. Yeah. I didn't make one, did you?
[00:05:04] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yes. You did. Well, first of all, we made one on the last show.
[00:05:09] Dr. Jodi Aman: Oh yeah. You were reaching out to three people a week and I'm reaching out to three people a day and today is the first day. We were on a family vacation from the first to yesterday. So today was kind of my day one of the year. And so I reached out to three people. You have a whole week to reach out to three people.
[00:05:25] Dr. Jodi Aman: I reached out to one
[00:05:26] Lily: person. Woo. Woo. Woo. Woo. So what would I say? Three people a week or one Three people a week. Okay, whatever. Last episode, I made a, I guess I made a resolution. And, but I didn't like, I don't know. I feel like that is a good goal. I mean, there's tons of things I want to get done. But in terms of a New Year's resolution,
[00:05:45] Dr. Jodi Aman: You didn't make one.
[00:05:45] Lily: I don't like, I haven't done it for a while. Ever. On purpose? Yeah, where I'm like, New Year's Eve, I'm like, I'm gonna do this all year. Because, I don't know. I feel like it's like more disappointment. It's like heart. So you're afraid to
[00:06:01] Dr. Jodi Aman: set goals because you're afraid you're not going to you're gonna be mad at yourself when you don't do that
[00:06:08] Lily: Yeah, because I could do oh, there's things I want to do.
[00:06:11] Lily: That sounds like an
[00:06:12] Dr. Jodi Aman: overthinker.
[00:06:14] Lily: Yeah, but I
[00:06:17] Dr. Jodi Aman: Mean it right So if you're an overthinker Then you don't set goals because then you're gonna be really upset when you don't make them And then you're sabotaging yourself anyway, right? You're sabotaging your, you know, motivation or your willingness to do work.
[00:06:34] Dr. Jodi Aman: Like you're resisting your own success when you do that.
[00:06:38] Lily: I know. I mean, we've talked, we've had a lot of conversations about it. I'm, I want, there's work that I want to get done, but it just feels because it could, like, all the work could just end up. With nothing, like you could reach out to people, try to make connections, but It doesn't amount to anything.
[00:06:54] Lily: Okay. And so that how do you
[00:06:55] Dr. Jodi Aman: judge success? I think that's the next question how do you judge success if you're doing all this efforting and You don't get the results. Maybe you were looking for but if you don't do the efforting at all, there's zero results
[00:07:10] Dr. Jodi Aman: If you half bake the the efforting, you're not going to get results that you could potentially get either. I know. I mean, it's you're trying to protect yourself. Like our ego tries to protect us. In the guise of trying to protect us, it makes us suffer because we lose opportunities. We sabotage ourselves.
[00:07:32] Dr. Jodi Aman: And I think this is like epidemic especially among people your age. I think
[00:07:37] Lily: that, but that's the thing is even when I'm told that, like I know that, but then it doesn't make tomorrow getting work done.
[00:07:44] Dr. Jodi Aman: What would make a difference? Because that would change so many people's lives if they knew how, if you could bottle not being so attached to worried about failure or not having success so that you don't try to do anything.
[00:07:59] Dr. Jodi Aman: If you could just drink a something and be like, okay, I'm going to try really hard. If I don't make it, I'll make something because I'll be better off than I would have otherwise. And something will come out of it. I mean, you can't do tons of efforting and have zero. Something comes out of it might not be what you expected.
[00:08:17] Lily: Yeah, but that I guess, is that true? Can you? Yes, I have a rather pessimistic view
[00:08:23] Dr. Jodi Aman: because no, I think it's really true because if you do lots and lots of efforting, so say you're applying for internships, if you do tons and tons of efforting, tons and tons of efforting to apply for internships, The chances of getting an internship is going to increase.
[00:08:39] Lily: Yeah.
[00:08:39] Dr. Jodi Aman: And if you just keep going, eventually you'll get an internship because there's internships out there. And so there's tons of places that want interns. They want you. People want you. Right? So if you think about it that way, like somebody wants me, they're looking for an intern. And so I just have to be at the right place at the right time.
[00:08:59] Dr. Jodi Aman: So that means I have to just show up as much as I possibly can. And then in those efforting to show up or send your resume out, you may make other connections. You may learn something else. You may get that internship. You may get the best internship ever. But. You may learn something else about yourself.
[00:09:18] Dr. Jodi Aman: You may, I don't know. There's so many opportunities in there that you don't even realize.
[00:09:23] Lily: Okay. You build confidence
[00:09:24] Dr. Jodi Aman: in yourself.
[00:09:25] Lily: I've heard that from you a lot. Like you're my mom. So I've heard that a lot. But like when you say that to me, I'm like, Oh yeah, I'm going to do work. Like today I was really productive and I got a lot of work done.
[00:09:41] Lily: And then anytime I hear something like inspirational, I get really productive. And then I'm like, Oh yeah, I can do this. Like I understand it. And then it could be like a few days later and I'll crash and I'd be like, yeah, it just doesn't feel worth it. But not like nothing feels worth it.
[00:09:57] Lily: It's just like the amount of work that I want to be putting in or like setting aside on my computer editing. Do you think that's,
[00:10:06] Dr. Jodi Aman: cause we've talked about this recently too. And I don't know if you wanted to talk about this on the show, but we're talking about with your generation, dopamine issues.
[00:10:13] Dr. Jodi Aman: So some days you're like, oh, not worth it. My motivation's really low. Could that be like a dopamine issue? And there's nothing to be ashamed of, obviously, it's like, well, it's like our phones are causing this huge problem. That's what, yeah. I was just
[00:10:25] Lily: gonna say that. Not you. I mean. Yeah, I know.
[00:10:27] Lily: But I was just going to say that it does feel like sometimes, this doesn't even have anything to do with New Year's, but it's sometimes you're scrolling like on TikTok Yeah. Yeah. I know other people feel this too, but you're like, I don't even want to be on here, but I don't know what else to do.
[00:10:42] Lily: I could I end up spending like on a bad day, like several hours on TikTok, not a bad day, but like on a more procrastinating day, like several hours when I could be watching like a movie, which is something I really want to be doing, but I don't, I'm not like enjoying myself on TikTok. But I also think I would like to make a decision to take a break instead of
[00:11:03] Dr. Jodi Aman: I see you do that with Tic Tac.
[00:11:04] Dr. Jodi Aman: You're like, I'm not going to do it till evening. Yeah. I
[00:11:07] Lily: did that all summer. I was worried, but then I just stopped one day and it was like,
[00:11:13] Dr. Jodi Aman: but that means you could do it again.
[00:11:15] Lily: Yeah, I could do it again. Yeah.
[00:11:16] Dr. Jodi Aman: So you could be like, no Tic Tac before 8 PM or something.
[00:11:20] Lily: Maybe it still
[00:11:21] Dr. Jodi Aman: gets you in trouble.
[00:11:22] Dr. Jodi Aman: Maybe it's time to just
[00:11:22] Lily: delete it. But.
[00:11:25] Dr. Jodi Aman: Maybe you won't have to.
[00:11:26] Lily: Maybe that's my new year's resolution. But okay, back to this, is like, how sometimes things being too strict will just make it,
[00:11:35] Dr. Jodi Aman: will trigger overthinking.
[00:11:37] Lily: Yeah if I'm like, oh, I can't ever go on TikTok, then it's like, when someone sends me something I really want to see, I'm like, no TikTok, or else, If I click on that, it's I'm just gonna scroll.
[00:11:46] Lily: So that's my issue with New Year's resolutions, is that if I'm like, noth nothing of this, like I it can either be all or nothing. It's hard for me to take a break from things. Or limit.
[00:11:58] Dr. Jodi Aman: Because once you limit and then once you do a little bit,
[00:12:00] Lily: it's oh, I don't care. I mean I do that with food.
[00:12:03] Lily: So I'm like, no sugar.
[00:12:05] Dr. Jodi Aman: And then, you know, and then I'm like oh I just have a little tiny bit of chocolate. Then I'm like forget it! I just eat chocolate when I'm hungry. Yeah
[00:12:11] Lily: but that's like the healthiest way to do it is if you have a little I feel like, I don't know, everyone's different, but I feel like you, It's not as healthy to be like no sugar.
[00:12:21] Lily: It's like better to have like mix, which is that's how I feel about everything
[00:12:25] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah, I know but you know what like my flexibility is my superpower And also I think it causes me problems sometimes because I'm flexible when I want a little bit more discipline So my flexibility gets me in the flow and I get a lot more done than a lot of people But also my flexibility makes me Take on totally different, tons of different things, and then I'm cluttered.
[00:12:48] Lily: Well, that's I'm most productive when I'm, like at school I'm very strict, like my room is clean, everything is clean, and then I like crave a break, crave a break for winter break, and then I get home and I'm like, oh I don't really know what to do with myself, and I don't have as much structure for myself.
[00:13:06] Lily: Do a podcast. And and then, and so that's what I I get more done when I'm less flexible, but then I'm like less flexible, you know? Yeah. So that's why I don't make New Year's resolutions, but that sounds like so horrible, but I like get the majority of stuff done, but there's just like another edge of things that I would like to be getting done.
[00:13:26] Lily: Then I don't.
[00:13:27] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. So you're overthinking is you have to do it or don't even bother. And so you try to set some goals for yourself like you've been running you've been going to the gym, right? Yeah, that And you're a little bit flexible with yourself to keep yourself from totally overthinking, but you've been managed to do that.
[00:13:49] Dr. Jodi Aman: And then you get proud of yourself about it. You know what I mean? So this is what's so hard is like we could be new, we could be our new self anytime. We could reset our, you know, I often use that word too when there's like a bad day when one of my kids or one of my clients is having a bad day, it's like we need a reset.
[00:14:06] Dr. Jodi Aman: It's like you want to hit that reset button sometimes and think about what do I need to do to reset? And I think the first thing you reset is your nervous system. So go watch our grounding techniques video, our episode on grounding techniques. Just look it up, Jodi Aiman grounding techniques and get a nervous system reset.
[00:14:23] Dr. Jodi Aman: I also have a longer training on nervous system reset and you could just go to JodiAiman. com slash reset. You might get another video first, but you'll get the reset video. So I talk about how to reset that nervous system because that's like number one in the reset. And then the, so then it's a little bit easier cause you, and then you have to shift beliefs.
[00:14:43] Dr. Jodi Aman: To think about, you know, first of all, just like the intention of a reset resets you, you know, the belief that you can have a reset is almost all you need is to think about, okay, reset and think about things differently and kind of open yourself up to how else to see it, other perspectives, or do something else for a little while.
[00:15:05] Dr. Jodi Aman: Do something with your hands, make something like stop. Kind of interrupt that train of whatever's going on and do something and those are ways to really reset Yourself for if it's not going well, or you're feeling like you're headed towards failure or it's not going well reset and do something else That is productive or feels like it you're moving instead of stalled and it resets all the things Sometimes like if somebody's in a bad mood, I'm like, well just do a couple errands around your room You know, it's straighten up a little bit, get one little, somebody is in a bad mood.
[00:15:39] Dr. Jodi Aman: You know, do some little errands around your room, go write, go get something that you had on your list that you need to do. And it resets you because you have like success or a little bit of productivity and totally shifts. Yeah. I never think it's going to work. It works every time. I never think it's going to work.
[00:15:54] Dr. Jodi Aman: No, you, no, you don't. It works though. You could really reset yourself even in the moment. And I, and you know, sometimes people are going through really awful stuff, so you just have to feel your feelings. That's another episode. You want to check out the feeling your feelings episode. All of these, if I'm referring to them, I'm going to put them below, but because if you like, if you push and resist those feelings, they like chase you, you know?
[00:16:22] Dr. Jodi Aman: And so if you allow yourself to feel, but with compassion, you don't attach, and then you could kind of distract yourself like so much easier. Okay. So let's talk about some of the things that is important to you for this year. We have about 10 minutes left here.
[00:16:36] Lily: Important to me?
[00:16:37] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. So forget about resolutions, New Year's resolutions.
[00:16:41] Dr. Jodi Aman: What do you want to bring into your life? I
[00:16:46] Lily: just want joy. That's what I want. Because it can come from so many different things. I'm holding a pen. It could come from, okay, it's not that funny. It's a pen. It could come from getting stuff I want to get done. It could come from not forcing my not making myself miserable with that.
[00:17:06] Lily: It comes from being around people I like. It comes from having enough relaxation and having enough things to do where I'm like busy and challenged. So I feel like joy is like an overall term, which I feel like we always talk about. Passing feedback from people you like. I mean, you know. Well, yeah. I also do well with criticism certain, from certain people.
[00:17:25] Lily: Pa ooh, Pa Papa? What's it called? Pa la? Papa. No, what's it the criticism that's good.
[00:17:33] Dr. Jodi Aman: Instructive?
[00:17:34] Lily: Yeah. I love getting constructive criticism, but not from you. I mean, that's why you're making that face. It's helpful, but of course, some
[00:17:44] Dr. Jodi Aman: opportunities a mother doesn't have to give consent.
[00:17:47] Dr. Jodi Aman: No,
[00:17:48] Lily: you can't, obviously. But like I do. I do. I think that's good, too. But
[00:17:54] Dr. Jodi Aman: yeah. OK yeah. So you like to be challenged. You like to have constructive criticism that stretches you or grows you. You're like, oh, my God, that's good. And you like. Try it that way. Acting.
[00:18:05] Lily: Me. Yeah,
[00:18:06] Dr. Jodi Aman: that's what you're talking about.
[00:18:07] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yes,
[00:18:07] Lily: that's what I mean.
[00:18:08] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah, so someone like says, well, try it this way and you try it and you're like, oh, that was a good note. We love that. It like, treats you. Yeah. And then you could get, especially because you're directable, so you get it and it probably feels really good. Okay, so the importance of being around people who lift you up, doing different things in adventure.
[00:18:30] Dr. Jodi Aman: Challenging yourself, doing things you want to do, like getting stuff done so you're on the other side of those things that stress you out.
[00:18:36] Lily: Yeah.
[00:18:37] Dr. Jodi Aman: Is that what you're, I'm hearing?
[00:18:38] Lily: I like, I feel like just like peace.
[00:18:41] Dr. Jodi Aman: Oh yeah still relaxing, like getting relaxation time you said. I was trying to repeat what you said.
[00:18:46] Dr. Jodi Aman: Oh yeah.
[00:18:48] Lily: And yeah. So grounding. Doing my grounding in the mornings. For the day, listening to music.
[00:18:54] Dr. Jodi Aman: Totally changes your day.
[00:18:55] Lily: Yeah. Cause I started to listen to an audiobook in my normal music time, and I started to feel I love listening to my audiobook, but, I was like, I'm missing kind of like that time where I listen to the music gets me in a good zone.
[00:19:10] Lily: And I start to take on what the characters are going through. Which is good, but I just need that time in the beginning of the day. And I learned that. That's kind of cool.
[00:19:19] Dr. Jodi Aman: How do you like, resist listening to the story when you're like, engaged in it, to do your grounding instead?
[00:19:25] Lily: Well, I, it's kind of, that's easier.
[00:19:27] Lily: It's not like as much discipline. It's I'm saving it for later. Like I have more to do later. So it's like fun.
[00:19:33] Dr. Jodi Aman: Okay.
[00:19:34] Lily: I like it. I like it.
[00:19:35] Dr. Jodi Aman: See, sometimes it's just about tricking, motivation is all about tricking your brain into Whatever you want and your intention is, it's better for you.
[00:19:43] Lily: Also, replacing it with music, it's not it's like also something I enjoy. Right. So it's not that
[00:19:48] Dr. Jodi Aman: hard. But it totally, it's different. So making priorities about what makes you, what overall makes you feel good.
[00:19:54] Lily: And trial and error, like it's okay to not get it. At the, that's the other thing, it's like, it doesn't have to happen.
[00:19:59] Lily: Well, that's what you said, there's a lot of chances. It doesn't have to happen at the beginning of the year.
[00:20:03] Dr. Jodi Aman: Yes. I love that you brought up trial and error because that's a biggie for me is does this work? And instead of being like, this is what people say is supposed to work, like the thought leaders on this is supposed to work, like use your intuition, like you know yourself better than anybody and use your intuition and be like, does this work for me?
[00:20:23] Dr. Jodi Aman: Does this feel right? Like sometimes people, you know, I watch something like do these three exercises and and you'll change your way your back feels. I could like, yes or no, those kinds of videos. Sometimes I want to just do reactions to those kinds of videos. So we like do those exercise for a whole week and then respond to like how that if that worked or not But sometimes you watch those things you're like, yeah, no and sometimes you watch them.
[00:20:50] Dr. Jodi Aman: You're like, yes, I need that exercise to stretch my
[00:20:53] Lily: sometimes you look at me like I could try it I mean, that's what the trial and error is, right? Yeah. Yeah, just no
[00:20:59] Dr. Jodi Aman: Exactly. Okay. So to round us up, I really want to talk about, I really want to talk about me. No I want to talk about what I'm interested in this year is I think connection is going to be like a number one for me.
[00:21:12] Dr. Jodi Aman: Like being with people in person. You know, I made a commitment a long time ago to prioritize people over tasks. And I'm always behind in my tasks, but I've got so many texts and I got so many people, but but yeah I think this year I'm going to even do that even more so than before is get together with people in person.
[00:21:33] Dr. Jodi Aman: And Yeah, I'm excited about that. I think that's important for all of us. I think the importance of connection right now in the world and being together in person is more important than it is ever been because we're very divided and it's done purposefully, right? This division has been done purposefully.
[00:21:51] Dr. Jodi Aman: Because you divide and you can control people that way. And so we have to get together in person and remember how we like each other, right? We remember that people are good and remember, and that will help really open our eyes to like, what's really happening and what we have to do to go forward.
[00:22:10] Dr. Jodi Aman: I think that's going to be the most important thing. So I want to encourage all of you, get together in person. Because there's a difference. We are social beings and we need that. We need that for our nervous system. I know this is hard because a lot of people are introverted and they're like, my nervous system's frayed when I'm around too many people.
[00:22:28] Dr. Jodi Aman: But for most people, and that might be because they're not around people that much, when they get around, they're like in their heads. And if they're around people more, I think it's, I think it's more of a production of our isolation. That
[00:22:41] Lily: you're an introvert?
[00:22:42] Dr. Jodi Aman: No that you get stressed out around people, right?
[00:22:46] Dr. Jodi Aman: We've been isolated so long. So we get around people like there's a bit of resistance and a bit of anxiety that comes up. It's because of the isolation. It's not because of the people, right? It's not because of being around people. Cause that's a natural state for us is being around people. But we've done that.
[00:23:02] Dr. Jodi Aman: You know, we've kind of pulled away so much for many different reasons. So we have to get together and people and that's going to actually ease our nervous system. So if you're that kind of a person who like I'm sensitive person, I'm, you know, hypersensitive and I can't be around people that much.
[00:23:16] Dr. Jodi Aman: I need a lot of me time. I need a lot of like downtime, have a little bit of a balance, but push yourself a little bit more to be around people because I think that will regulate you. It's like getting over that hump, you know what I mean? And that'll regulate you. I also, you know, I also want to just mention being trauma informed because we haven't really been open and honest about if you've experienced trauma, these resets are for you too.
[00:23:44] Dr. Jodi Aman: These grounding techniques are for you. Feeling your feelings are for you. In my book, Anxiety, I'm So Done With You, I talk about, is that a mirror? I don't know. It is to us. Okay. So if you get my book, because I talk about how to reset the amygdala. So it's not, so trauma is not a life sentence. And when you're thinking about new year and new you, if you've had experiences in the past and your amygdala brings those back, you know, they're like experiences, flashbacks, you could reset the amygdala and my, we're not going to talk about it tonight, but maybe if you're interested, I'll do a topic on the show and I'll just be talking about reset.
[00:24:23] Dr. Jodi Aman: I'm going to actually do that. Resetting the amygdala. Also, I want you to know that we do a, we have a call in feature on the show. So sometimes Lily's not with me and I'll take call in, call ins and people could talk about things that are going on in their own life. And I do live coaching right on here.
[00:24:41] Dr. Jodi Aman: Thank you Joe. Our producers putting up this. So this is this is not the call in number. This is a text. If you wanna get on the text list for the show where we text you the topics, we text you, what we're gonna talk about if we need callers, if we're, we have a topic we're looking for some callers get on this text list.
[00:25:02] Dr. Jodi Aman: 8 3 3 4, 5, 8. Oh, she put it down again, but you saw it on there. Oh, sorry, Joe. 8, 3, 3, 4, 5, 8. 3845. There it is. Just text Jodi to that number and you'll be on my text list and I'll text out to everybody and if you text me back, only I get it. It doesn't go to the whole list. So that's cool. You get access to me if you get on that text list.
[00:25:27] Dr. Jodi Aman: But from that text list, you could be like, I want to call in. I want live coaching on the show. But you could come over to my website, jodieman. com slash live, and you could sign up, there's a signup form. If you want to sign up to be a call in guest, I would love to have you. If you're like, I don't want anyone to know my problems.
[00:25:45] Dr. Jodi Aman: You could be anonymous and you could give me a different name. And so nobody knows who you are, where you're from, and you could tell us anything. So glad to have you on Mon Live every Monday at 8 p. m. I'm Dr. Jodi. I'm Lily. Yeah. I, you also could get on the calendar. Sorry, I'm keep going on and on here, but you could also get on our calendar and you'll see the topics coming up or sign up for email updates also.
[00:26:11] Dr. Jodi Aman: So you get a text or an email, whatever you use the most and we'll send you out the topic for the show. I forgot to do that. Coming back from vacation, man. It's not an easy thing. Reset! Today was a big huge reset. I cleaned everything, made my whole to do list, and started cracking on it. Say go Happy New Year, everyone.
[00:26:30] Dr. Jodi Aman: You could do this. You could be you. You could be the best you. You are so much more amazing than you think you are. I want that you want to be to come out and come through. Stick with us. We'll help you out and show you how. See you next Monday. Bye.
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