In this thought-provoking episode of Ask Dr. Jodi, I explore the "Buy Now Pandemic" with my daughter Lily. We dive deep into how our consumer culture affects our mental health, relationships, and the environment. Together, we discuss practical solutions to combat impulsive buying habits and create more meaningful connections in our lives.
Join me and my daughter Lily as we unpack the layers of problems created by our "buy now" culture. From the psychological impact of constant advertising to the environmental consequences of our throwaway society, we explore how this pandemic of consumption affects every aspect of our lives. We share personal insights about our own shopping habits and discuss the challenges of resisting manipulative marketing tactics, especially on social media platforms like TikTok.
We also delve into how excessive consumption impacts our relationships, mental health, and social connections. I offer practical strategies for making mindful purchasing decisions and creating meaningful experiences without falling into the trap of retail therapy. Plus, we discuss the importance of being non-judgmental while making positive changes in our consumer habits.
Key Takeaways:
🔹 The 30-Day Rule: Wait 30 days before purchasing items you see in ads to avoid impulsive buying
🔹 Relationship Impact: Excessive shopping can strain relationships and lead to social withdrawal
🔹 Mental Health Effects: Clutter from unnecessary purchases can create mental chaos and anxiety
🔹 Community Connection: In-person interactions and shared experiences are more valuable than material possessions
🔹 Mindful Consumption: Small, sustainable changes in shopping habits can make a meaningful difference
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[00:00:00] Dr. Jodi: Welcome. We're talking about the Buy Now Pandemic Retail therapy. You name it. Why we purchase so many things and what it does to us on so many levels. That's what we're talking about in this episode. And I'm Dr. Jodi, and I'm joined here by Lily. Lily, my daughter Lily. And we thought of this topic because it's something that touches all of us.
[00:00:24] Dr. Jodi: All of us are touched by this Buy Now pandemic because we are constantly. Looking at content and seeing ads to a million different products. Yeah. And so what do we do about this? And I just wanna think about the layers of problems with this buy now culture that we have. And now we're being called in a lot of different arenas to.
[00:00:47] Dr. Jodi: Boycott some of these big businesses because of the influence that they have in our world. And so let's talk about some of the problems of this buy now culture. There'll be relational problems. We're gonna go into each of [00:01:00] these, but relational problems, there are social problems, there are mental health problems, there are medical problems. . And financial problems. And not even to mention environmental problems of having so much stuff. These, this throwaway culture. So we're gonna get into it. And Lily was the inspiration for this topic because we were talking about TikTok, when TikTok was gonna be taken down and some feelings that she has about TikTok shopping.
[00:01:32] Lily: Yeah I hate TikTok shop. I do not like TikTok shop. It really bothers me. I don't know why. I know why, and we're gonna talk about it, but I have like a deep hatred for it. I was excited about TikTok closing because, because Yeah. Okay. So they'll, we'll get ads on our for you page and.
[00:01:57] Lily: Some of them are just like normal ads [00:02:00] and they're just like, oh, this is a cute shirt or whatever. That's fine, but then there'll be something that like some, like an, let's say it's an anti-aging cream, and then it'll be like, this works. This works better than the last one we put out that I saw like a month ago.
[00:02:18] Lily: Because I'm not explaining this right, but I'll have seen it and then I'll see it again a few weeks later and it's like new formula. It works better. The old one doesn't didn't work. Like we admit it didn't work. And then a few weeks later it'll be like new improved formula. Like now it works.
[00:02:32] Lily: And it really bothers me that they think we're so stupid and then we are like, it even works on me. I will go and buy. I am not on TikTok shop, but. I will just I am a sucker for ads. We all are.
[00:02:46] Dr. Jodi: We all are.
[00:02:47] Lily: We are. I'm not explaining it well,
[00:02:49] Dr. Jodi: but No, but I understand you were giving us an example before of some product, but it wasn't a cream, but it was some product and.
[00:02:56] Dr. Jodi: It said, the influencers, this is the thing, is that influencers are [00:03:00] doing content ads, right? So they're talking about something and then mentioning the product, or talking about how they got the product or how to use the product, or there's so many hooks like, why I, why you should never buy this. But then. When you watch it because it gets you hooked. Yeah. And
[00:03:17] Dr. Jodi: then when you watch it, you decide, oh my gosh, you do need that. This is, these are all these great things that happen when you buy that. But they hooked you by saying you should never buy this vacuum for your car. But Lily was giving an example of this product, whatever it was, little vacuum or something that, that it did, it came out that it didn't work.
[00:03:36] Dr. Jodi: So they had to fix the problems and they had influencers have to act like this one's better than the last one.
[00:03:43] Lily: Yeah.
[00:03:43] Dr. Jodi: And it, that was, I think what really struck you is after the third or fourth time, I think the same influencer saw it four times or ads, after for the ad was saying the last one didn't work, we fixed it.
[00:03:55] Dr. Jodi: Then this one is even better. So they sold the same people. Four different, yeah. [00:04:00] Like of course there's more people that's shown the ad, but at that
[00:04:02] Lily: point give it up. It's over
[00:04:04] Dr. Jodi: what? But think about all of those first three iterations are in the garbage. They don't, you don't throw them away.
[00:04:11] Dr. Jodi: That there is a place that these things go and eventually there's not gonna be space,
[00:04:16] Lily: or they're not even different. They probably are just like saying that they're like new improved formula and it's not. But anyway, so that was like the incident, like
[00:04:27] Dr. Jodi: I, it's just so obvious that we're being manipulated and that's, I think, what bothers you.
[00:04:31] Dr. Jodi: Yeah. It's like how stupid do they think that we are?
[00:04:34] Lily: Because this is what, this is why, okay. Consumerism culture in general is bad. But I think what started this conversation was that I'd rather be manipulated and and not even realize it than be. I don't know. That sounds bad. Yeah, it does sound weird.
[00:04:51] Lily: That does sound weird, but okay. Trader Joe's. Trader Joe's like a big corporation, but they try really hard to make it [00:05:00] seem like it's like down to earth. Like all of the labels are like self written and that's okay. That's actually scary. So I guess that is bad.
[00:05:11] Dr. Jodi: You feel good. Purchasing there 'cause you think that you're doing something good for the earth.
[00:05:16] Dr. Jodi: I watched this if you, if anybody is on Netflix on another problem. But if anyone's on Netflix, you could watch this by now. Oh, documentary.
[00:05:24] Lily: Oh my gosh. This whole, this whole conversation is just us being like, it's better to do this. Or if you do this and you're watching, there's more things like, we actually can't have this conversation without talking about so many.
[00:05:34] Lily: Things that are bad.
[00:05:35] Dr. Jodi: Yeah, like I have a YouTube channel, so how do you make money on YouTube? There's ads sold. There's like this. So I podcast really, I watched this show and I'm like, I really have to change everything that I do because even just content creating, even putting content out there, how is it shown to other people?
[00:05:52] Dr. Jodi: Even if I'm educating people or even if I'm trying to inspire people or trying to help people heal, really? It, it's all [00:06:00] paid for with these ads. Not that I'm getting, I'm like not getting, I'm getting pennies, so it's nothing for me, but I'm helping these huge corporations make a lot of money with my content and so you, you start to question everything and Yeah, really, after watching this, I really wanna question.
[00:06:17] Dr. Jodi: What am I doing?
[00:06:17] Lily: Oh, because I was just about to say that I'd rather spend money on Trader Joe's than TikTok shop, but it's literally the same thing and it's working on me.
[00:06:26] Dr. Jodi: Yeah.
[00:06:26] Lily: So what can we do?
[00:06:29] Dr. Jodi: I don't know. I think I, I feel like I'm, I really wanna, I love teaching. I love teaching.
[00:06:33] Dr. Jodi: I wanna be out here. I wanna teach people because I think it, it lands in a way because I understand what people are thinking. So I understand how to say it in a way that it helps people know what to do. I'm very practical, my teacher, so I still wanna do that. But I'm using these huge platforms.
[00:06:48] Dr. Jodi: Like Instagram and Facebook and YouTube, and there are problems out there, right? So yes, we could, we, if we find something we like, okay, I was gonna get to this more at the end, but let's just bring it up. [00:07:00] What can you do? One of the best things you could do is if you see an ad and you're triggered into thinking that you might want something, put it in a note with the link or whatever, and wait 30 days.
[00:07:14] Dr. Jodi: And if you still want that thing 30 days later, then you, it might be something that you need, but if it's something new that you didn't even know you want until they had told you needed it wait a while. Some people say 24 hours. I would say 30 days. Because I think we have to really ingrain this practice of not buying things that we don't need.
[00:07:34] Dr. Jodi: Most of the things we get we're, we don't really, we don't need more clothes. I, we don't need more stuff. We have so much stuff and then we get, I spent some time in Brooklyn because my kids are down here and there's just huge buildings of storage, like cubicle storage, like we're buying space.
[00:07:54] Dr. Jodi: People don't have homes. We're buying space to hold our stuff basically. [00:08:00]Okay, so let's get into it. So yes, wait 24 hours. If you see something on one of these channels, go find the company yourself. So you don't, so they don't get the ad revenue from that. Also, you could you could also try to buy locally, try to buy used stuff, try to upcycle things.
[00:08:19] Dr. Jodi: So if something doesn't fit or it's stained, do something like, make a little patch on it. Make it different in a way. So you're using things that are still usable. It's just for They have a stain in it.
[00:08:30] Lily: Yeah. Make you feel better too. Like it'll, you can get your power back from being manipulated.
[00:08:35] Dr. Jodi: Yeah. Makes you feel powerless. Yeah. I love Facebook Marketplace. It's still Facebook, but they don't make any money if you're local. They do if you're shipping stuff, but if you're local and sharing stuff, they don't make anything. Of course, they get more eyeballs on there and then they have ads, so they're getting something on the backend.
[00:08:50] Dr. Jodi: So that's not even true.
[00:08:52] Lily: Yeah. It's actually hard to have, like it's anywhere. It's so in integrated into our culture that. It's hard to give solutions without being [00:09:00] like yeah, that's problem even we're less of one. I guess it's just I guess it's just the lesser of two evils at this point.
[00:09:05] Dr. Jodi: Yeah, so ba use, share things if you're in a community, get a community thread or some kind of app or something that, that people could share. Like the buy nothing groups in each town. And I know a lot of those are on Facebook, but if we could take 'em off that platform and do something else with them.
[00:09:25] Dr. Jodi: That would be great, but sharing with your neighbors. If I have something I wanna give away, I ask all my nieces and nephews do want this thing. And often they do want it. So that's a night that's easier off all the platforms. But buy local, buy from small businesses. Go without upcycle.
[00:09:42] Dr. Jodi: Wait 30 days before you buy something that, especially if you saw an ad for it, wait 30 days and then see if you still want it. So we're giving the solutions in the beginning, but let's talk about some of the problems that happen and how they're really affecting us. Because yes, maybe [00:10:00] you could see, oh my gosh, this is horrible for the earth.
[00:10:03] Dr. Jodi: It's so easy for us to try not to care about that because we have so much other stuff going on. Really, we do not have bandwidth to care about the earth right now, which is really sad. Yeah, most people don't have bandwidth, but the culture of. Takeout and all of that stuff. Oh yeah. Is oh, it's just sick to me.
[00:10:20] Dr. Jodi: It makes me sick. Really? Yeah. You live in New York, you probably just, it's constant. Nobody cooks anymore. They're just buying something in a container and throwing it out. It's unbelievable how much waste.
[00:10:32] Lily: But you're yeah, it's expensive. It's more expensive to take out most of the time.
[00:10:35] Lily: Yeah. But,
[00:10:37] Dr. Jodi: but it's sometimes actually when
[00:10:39] Lily: you're in terms of bandwidth,
[00:10:40] Dr. Jodi: you use your time doing something else or whatever.
[00:10:42] Lily: Yeah. I dunno. But
[00:10:43] Dr. Jodi: It's it's really easy. It's so easy. It's so easy. But then you're like if we don't use these small businesses, maybe these restaurants are small businesses and family businesses and you're supporting their business, that's great.
[00:10:57] Dr. Jodi: Go sit down and eat in there. I like to [00:11:00] eat in a restaurant instead.
[00:11:01] Lily: Okay, so at the beginning you said that. It like impacts your relationships? Yes. By like by now culture.
[00:11:10] Dr. Jodi: By now Culture because? Because people have different values on what they spend money on. So if you're in a couple relationship and you're sharing money or.
[00:11:20] Dr. Jodi: Even if you're in a roommate relationship and you don't have your rent because you've been spending too much online or too much buying stuff that you don't need, and then you're hurting those relationships or you're hurting that partnership 'cause you just, I see, you're spending money that you could give to your kids or have their kids do something with it or whatever.
[00:11:39] Dr. Jodi: I don't know. It also, it does affect relationships. It
[00:11:41] Lily: divides people. So and 'cause I'm in college, some people. Spend all day outside, like just doing things. They'll go to the movies and then they'll go out to dinner and go to a dessert place and do, would go to a candy shop and get, or get drinks or blah, blah, blah.
[00:11:59] Lily: [00:12:00] And that is just wow. Adds up. You just, how do you spend like hundreds of dollars every day? That's so crazy. And then some people are like, wait, I, why would I just watch a movie on at home or play games or something
[00:12:12] Dr. Jodi: and talk. You talk to your roommates for just hours and play cards. Bring back decks of cards.
[00:12:20] Lily: That's a little pathetic, but yeah, buy cards. Get my cards. I don't have them hold up. Yeah, your games. Yeah, but it divides people. If you, I think there is, there's value in going out for a drink or something to be, to socially be as peaceful, to be, to socially be out and leave the house.
[00:12:37] Lily: But then if there's like a mixture of the two, then you could, but like some, the people that wanna save money can't go out with their friends. 'cause then that means they're also gonna have to do 10 other things that will,
[00:12:50] Dr. Jodi: well, sometimes if you have so many things, you've bought so many things, your house is just so full.
[00:12:55] Dr. Jodi: You don't want, you're too embarrassed to have people over, or you're so withdrawn because you [00:13:00] feel a lot of guilt or you don't feel good about yourself. Because if you have a lot of clutter from all of this stuff, it affects your mind. So what is in your mind is reflected outside and what's in your room is reflected inside your mind.
[00:13:12] Dr. Jodi: So if you have a lot of clutter, you do feel really chaotic. Yeah. And then when you feel chaotic or outta control or anxious or anything, you tend to withdraw. So it affects relationships on different levels. Like one is because there's different value of finances. And you might be trying to hide stuff and then lying.
[00:13:28] Dr. Jodi: And that's a huge problem. Of course. And then sometimes you're just withdrawing socially. First of all, because you're spending a lot of time in there. You like it. There's that dopamine hack of like, when you get something, you're excited about it and you don't need friends anymore, but you're not really happy when you don't have friends 'cause they're social beings.
[00:13:48] Dr. Jodi: And then we get more nervous about being around people. 'cause we don't have a, we're not around them all the time, so we get all familiar with them. Yeah. We get more nervous and we get our mental health deteriorates and deteriorates in that kind of [00:14:00] situation. So that's what I mean by relational.
[00:14:02] Dr. Jodi: Yeah.
[00:14:02] Lily: That makes, that's super sad.
[00:14:04] Dr. Jodi: Yeah. But if you like, you don't need to go out and buy something to be with people. You don't need to be in a restaurant, clean your house up, have people over in your house, play cards talk. People just wanna talk. They wanna be heard, they wanna talk. That's one of the best things you could do.
[00:14:22] Dr. Jodi: I think for the our world, one of the best things we could do is get in together with people and talk. So it is good for our mental health. It's good for our relational health. It's good for our understanding of other people. We tend to, when you put two heads together, you tend to plan about how to make the world a better place.
[00:14:39] Dr. Jodi: You have a lot of bandwidth because you have that validation from the other person and the community and maybe the fun, and so you have bandwidth to then go and do something else. That makes the world a better place. Getting together in person is the best thing you could do. Shopping online, being isolated, feeling bad about it or guilty about it, or having your house be so overloaded [00:15:00] that you can't have people over.
[00:15:02] Dr. Jodi: Not good for your mental health.
[00:15:03] Dr. Jodi: Not good for your mental health. Yeah.
[00:15:06] Lily: I was just thinking the other day I went into Target because I wanted a puzzle.
[00:15:11] Dr. Jodi: Get one in the library. They have like ones that They're just trying to give away
[00:15:15] Lily: because doesn't have any puzzles.
[00:15:17] Lily: We couldn't find a puzzle. It was like our fourth place to whatever. It was so sad that we spent so much time.
[00:15:22] Dr. Jodi: I hate to buy a puzzle new
[00:15:25] Lily: Do they? Can you like buy one from a library?
[00:15:28] Dr. Jodi: Lot, sometimes libraries. Depends. In my hometown in Rochester, most of the libraries have a room where they have used books and there's so many usually puzzles in there, but also in some used stores, they have puzzles and
[00:15:41] Lily: wait, it happened again.
[00:15:42] Lily: I was trying to be like. Getting a puzzle and there were so many other things there that were just like plastic and you just taught me that. Even getting a puzzle, I thought a puzzle was like hard.
[00:15:53] Dr. Jodi: Yeah. It's all, yeah. Cardboard and harmless. Oh. But by get a puzzle that has been, get a, [00:16:00] somebody makes a puzzle and then they get rid of their puzzle.
[00:16:03] Dr. Jodi: It's nice. It's cardboard. Yeah it's fun and it's community. It's really good. But there's so many used puzzles around, I don't know where to get it in New York City, but there's so many places where you could get used puzzles, maybe look in marketplace.
[00:16:16] Lily: Yeah.
[00:16:16] Dr. Jodi: Even though, if you wanna not use Facebook anymore and I, I've chosen to still put.
[00:16:22] Dr. Jodi: For now, still put my content out, but I'm not even sure what I'm gonna do. But I'm definitely not shopping through any of these things. I've been really trying to be very conscious about my shopping. I think through Covid I probably got a little bit off balance there when it was really important to me to be environmentally friendly.
[00:16:42] Dr. Jodi: I mean we all get a little even more off balance 'cause we felt so out of control with Covid and everything. And then you started the online shopping and became a habit is so simple. You go to the, I could go to three stores and not find the thing. So it's like why bother doing all that work? But we really have to do better.
[00:16:59] Lily: It does [00:17:00] really feel like, oh, what's the point? Like me not doing this when I can click Amazon and be like, buy like one button. And. Oh, everyone else is doing it. It feels so pointless.
[00:17:12] Dr. Jodi: It feels if you change you and nobody else changes, what's the point? It's like a drop in the bucket and the bucket is overflowing it to ocean.
[00:17:19] Dr. Jodi: So what is our little drop gonna do? But we all have to do our drop.
[00:17:23] Lily: Yeah, I know,
[00:17:24] Dr. Jodi: right? So that is the biggest myth that we have is that my little steps. Don't make any difference, and I don't think that's true. I think your steps make a difference. If you were really self-righteous about it and you spoke about it and, criticize people they'd hate you or they'd feel so guilty about themself and they'd, gaslight you for doing what you're doing.
[00:17:43] Dr. Jodi: But if you were just grounded and open and just loving in it and just not in people's face about it, then you would model that and people would wanna do that with you. So when somebody's with me and I'm walking with them outside and I'm [00:18:00] picking up garbage, I'm not like, I gotta pick up this garbage. So I'm like in their face about it I'll like petting myself on the back.
[00:18:06] Dr. Jodi: I pick it up and put it in my pocket and never say anything and they don't say anything. But I know that they see that and I think it's more impactful the fact that I'm not all self-righteous about it. And I'm like, why do people litter , then they'd be like, oh, she just, this is more performative and it's not like real.
[00:18:24] Dr. Jodi: So if you're real, because you don't care about being performative, you don't have that attachment to it, that's when we could really influence people. I think.
[00:18:31] Lily: Did you have to learn that? Like how do you,
[00:18:33] Dr. Jodi: to not be performative about it, to not be like, actually dad did, doesn't like if you were environmentally friendly or you're vegetarian or something, to be self-righteous about it is counter what you really wanna be.
[00:18:48] Dr. Jodi: And there are so many people in that, especially 20 years ago, there's so many people who are vegans and they're like real self-righteous about it and it's, it turns people off. And I didn't wanna be like that. I wanted to be [00:19:00] the kind of vegan, I was a vegan for a long time. I wanted to be the kind of vegan that inspired people, not make people feel bad.
[00:19:06] Dr. Jodi: 'cause when people feel bad, they act like you're crazy. And so I didn't wanna add fuel to that fire. And so I learned how to just be really centered about it and not. I had no attachment to it. I wasn't trying to be preachy.
[00:19:18] Dr. Jodi: And you've been we've talked about this before, we're around people that are a bit preachy and it's not cool.
[00:19:24] Dr. Jodi: Nobody likes it and it doesn't really help the, it doesn't really make a movement.
[00:19:29] Lily: It feels like it's more about the, uh. the
[00:19:34] Dr. Jodi: Performativeness
[00:19:35] Lily: as well. Yeah. It's just about
[00:19:36] Dr. Jodi: being a good person as opposed to, and sometimes when you first learn about stuff, you wanna make sure everybody knows about it.
[00:19:42] Dr. Jodi: But you have to be careful. If you're too preachy, you lose people, they're not actually listening. And if you're really integrated or centered with it and you're very gentle about it and you don't make a big deal and no, then people are watching you and you're kind and you're not like, you're not.
[00:19:59] Dr. Jodi: Judging [00:20:00] everybody. They don't feel judged by you. They're gonna make, that's gonna make more impact,
[00:20:04] Lily: except are we preaching right now?
[00:20:06] Dr. Jodi: Because we don't have a situation, and we're not, it's not it's not like we're at a picnic and we're like, I'm not gonna use a plate. I'm gonna, yeah. If I was like that, I guess this is labeled, no, we're inspiring people now.
[00:20:18] Dr. Jodi: Now we're inspiring people. Yeah. But if we were in a context of something and we're like, why would you order a cup? If you're gonna sit in a coffee shop, why would you order a paper cup
[00:20:28] Lily: when it comes with judgment? Because we've all done, we've all done stuff.
[00:20:32] Dr. Jodi: I just took my one cup. I just have a for here mug, and they give me, I'm like the only one in the coffee shop with a for here mug and they're all sitting there.
[00:20:40] Lily: But okay, now there's judgment in it when you're talking.
[00:20:42] Dr. Jodi: Okay. But I'm not talking to someone specific. So think about it, think about what little stuff you could do. And we can't do everything. It's not like I've never gotten a to-go cup ever before I have, but but sometimes I'll go without that drink if I don't have my thing with me and I don't preach [00:21:00] about that.
[00:21:00] Dr. Jodi: I'm talking about it here. 'cause in general, but anyway,
[00:21:03] Lily: its Hard to know when also you can't be perfect. So sometimes if you're having a rough day, like I'll just get. Yeah, I'll get something, I'll get ice cream to go and not a
[00:21:17] Lily: cone, like a dish with a spoon. Yeah, a dish and take it home or something.
[00:21:23] Lily: Not totally use.
[00:21:24] Dr. Jodi: Yeah, no, we're living in this world and we have limitations and sometimes there's just not the bandwidth to do that. And I know that there's a huge luxury to be like, okay, I can wait a couple hours to drink because I don't have. A bottle to refill and I don't, or I don't have a cup to get a coffee or I don't get coffee out, whatever I do buy coffee home.
[00:21:45] Dr. Jodi: But if if that's a privilege, it's a privilege. If you recognize that you have a privilege to do that,
[00:21:51] Lily: all this is a privilege to gonna be preaching to, to, for us. Even to tell us to tell and be like, you don't need try. So try not to get this [00:22:00] stuff. We're all in this, at least.
[00:22:02] Lily: Yeah.
[00:22:03] Dr. Jodi: So it's all relative, but but yeah, I realize that there's a lot, there's a lot at play here. I, yeah, there's so much at play here, I feel like, and so you're not gonna be perfect and don't expect yourself to be perfect. But if you make little, tiny, small choices and once they integrate or easy, you make a couple little tiny choices, they're sustainable.
[00:22:23] Dr. Jodi: They're sustainable, and you'll feel better. It'll improve your relationships. You won't be preachy to anybody else. You just do what you wanna do for yourself, and that's gonna have more impact on the people around you than being preachy or being judgmental or being like, I'm better than everybody.
[00:22:40] Dr. Jodi: It's just, that's just not cool. That just doesn't help anybody. But it doesn't even help you, it's a fear-based thing that you're trying to, it's a kind of a more of a detection thing if you're doing that. Anyway. I sound a lot like I'm criticizing people more than I usually do on my show but I'm trying to explain behavior.
[00:22:58] Lily: This episode is hard [00:23:00] because I feel like I at least just realized how much I am contributing to it while I was trying to talk about it.
[00:23:06] Dr. Jodi: I feel the same way. I'm really glad that you said that, but I've also, I am very far from it and like I said, I really
[00:23:14] Lily: far from what,
[00:23:15] Dr. Jodi: far from perfect or far from where I even wanna be.
[00:23:18] Dr. Jodi: I purchase a lot more stuff. And even watching this show, I was like, something's gotta change. I have to change my business model or how I'm trying to get stuff out there to people. Because if it's helping big people sell stuff to you, is that really helping? Am I just part of the problem?
[00:23:35] Dr. Jodi: And so really have to come and question things. Don't best, I don't like, believe you. I wanna still be here and create content for you all, but to figure out what does that mean? Definitely, really? Wow. Changed my shopping, but I know. It really blew me away. Watch it by now and you'll be like, oh my gosh.
[00:23:54] Dr. Jodi: We really have to do something to care for the earth and care about each other. And one of the best things you could do, [00:24:00] get together with people in person. 'cause it really changes how we see ourself, how we see relationships, how we see our community, and how we see the world. That is one of the best things that you could do.
[00:24:13] Dr. Jodi: For the future is to try to make more effort to be in person with people. Whenever you can play cards, play a puzzle, talk over a cup of tea or coffee that you make at home without a for a cup.
[00:24:29] Lily: And loose tea leaves and I use it homegrown.
[00:24:32] Dr. Jodi: This. It's ridiculous. It's ridiculous.
[00:24:34] Dr. Jodi: You cannot be anywhere near perfect. I use keric cups all weekend and it's fine. All that's our show.
[00:24:42] Lily: Didn't we Learn a lot?
[00:24:42] Dr. Jodi: That's our show for by now. It's overwhelming, so don't get overwhelmed. Just learn and just do something little. Something little, put it in a cart or put that link in a notes app, and then decide on a bit of time before you come back and see if you want [00:25:00] it or not.
[00:25:01] Dr. Jodi: When you're giving things away, see if there's somebody else who could use it in person instead of donating it. Sometimes donations end up going right into the trash. If there's something with stains on it, they can't resell that stuff, so use it as rags. You'll give it a second life, or you could upcycle it
[00:25:19] Dr. Jodi: so those are some ideas for you. I hope they serve you. They'll make you feel good, we really just have to be kind and nice to people around us, and I think that's the best way to to make the most outta this one little life that we have. Yeah. All right everyone. Thank you so much for watching this episode, and by now we're live every Monday at 8:00 PM You could come on over to YouTube at Dr. Jodi at D-O-C-T-O-R-J-O-D-I. Come on over. You could watch us live and then you could comment and ask us questions when we're live. If you wanna sign up to be live coached on the show, I do live coaching on the show. You could just have your audio come on so no one sees you, no one knows who you are. You could have a pseudonym [00:26:00] and you could talk to me about something going on in your life.
[00:26:02] Dr. Jodi: And I will coach you live. I've been doing those episodes. You could see them in some of them in past episodes. So fun. So transformative. And these are topics that everybody is going through. So you're going to hear what's going on for this other person and that you're gonna be able to relate to it and it's gonna uplevel your life too.
[00:26:23] Dr. Jodi: If you want more from me, come on over to my website too, Jodi.com and stick with me. We're gonna give you all the information that you need see you next week.