Limiting beliefs can quietly shape our lives, holding us back from achieving our goals and embracing our true potential. But the good news? You can rewrite those old stories and step into a life of self-belief and action. In this episode of Ask Dr. Jodi, I’m joined by James, a podcaster and mental health advocate, to dive deep into the concept of limiting beliefs. Together, we explore how these beliefs form, how they hold us back, and most importantly, how to break free from them. James shares his personal journey of overcoming self-doubt, learning to trust himself, and practicing self-compassion. If you’ve ever felt like your inner critic is too loud or that self-sabotage is keeping you stuck, this episode is for you. It’s time to turn hesitation into action and replace limiting beliefs with empowering ones.
In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I sit down with James to discuss limiting beliefs and their impact on our lives. Together, we cover:
This episode is packed with relatable stories, practical advice, and actionable steps to help you shift from self-doubt to self-belief.
✔ Understand Limiting Beliefs: Learn how negative beliefs form and why they hold you back.
✔ Overcome Hesitation: Discover how overthinking signals your brain to find problems—and how to break the cycle.
✔ Practical Steps: Start with gratitude, self-reflection, and small actions to rewrite your inner narrative.
✔ Challenge the Inner Critic: Witness your negative thoughts instead of believing them, and shift your perspective.
✔ Rewrite Your Story: Build self-trust, celebrate small wins, and create a new, empowering identity.
Thank you so much for listening to Ask Dr. Jodi! If you enjoyed today’s episode, please take a moment to leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts and share it with someone who needs inspiration or help to heal!
Dr. Jodi Aman: [00:00:00] Welcome to this episode about limiting beliefs. Let's first talk before we bring James on, our guest for today. Let's talk a little bit about what limiting beliefs are and if they're affecting you in your life, so you could understand what they are. So when we have experiences in our life, when we have good experiences or bad experiences.
We make meaning around those experiences. We wanna understand what is happening, why it's happening, how it's affecting us, why people do what they do. And so right away when we have an event, especially a negative event, we create meaning I. Because a negative event feels uncomfortable, it feels chaotic, and we want order again.
That chaos doesn't feel good to us, and we wanna understand it because in our understanding of it, we feel like we have control again, or we have some kind of order. So what happens is we have an event, we make meaning around that [00:01:00] event, and that meaning informs how we understand the world. What beliefs that we have, whether they are true or not, we create beliefs from that experience.
And a limiting belief is a term that's used to mean a negative belief that could come from an event like that, from a negative event. A negative understanding of the event, but a negative understanding of oneself, a negative understanding of relationships or trust or concepts like that. Right. So we have James on, 'cause he wanted to talk about some limiting beliefs that he has in his life.
And so you'll learn a little bit more about what limiting beliefs are when he describes them and how they may or may not cause him to self-sabotage. Self-sabotage just means the things that we do, the actions or the thoughts that we take, or the coping mechanisms that we have that [00:02:00] have us doing something that doesn't help us get the things we want, have the experiences we deserve, maybe, or have the relationships we want.
So self-sabotage is exactly like . It's said it's something that we do that sabotages. Our opportunities, our openness, our availability to the things that we want in our life and prefer in our life. So let's hear from James. James, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself, the context of your life, and then what you wanna talk about today.
James: Oh, hello. Good morning, afternoon.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Good morning. Afternoon.
James: Yeah, sorry. As you mentioned, my name is James. I am living in Dublin, Ireland, all the way over here. And so I got into the topic of mental health in the last two, three years. Sorry, my podcast the last two or three years. But I've always been fascinated.
The last five years I've been more fascinated around [00:03:00] mental health and through speaking to people on my channel, I've learned a lot about myself and it's also taught me. A lot of things that I have to work on. Before, I didn't have words for them or I didn't know what the word, I just kind of assumed that's who I am.
Yeah. And yeah. But now I know the parts of me and I can do something about them. Before it was just like, that's who I am and that's what I do type of thing. And oh, I dunno why I do that to myself. But now through learning, I'm learning that.
Dr. Jodi Aman: You are learning about yourself, you're understanding human behavior because you Yeah.
Interview therapists. I know that's one of the things you do. And you do other things that on your podcast too.
James: Yeah, I do interview with therapists and doctors and I also get people on to share the personal story. So yeah. Anything that
falls on.
Dr. Jodi Aman: But you must be learning so much.
James: Oh yeah, so much.
I loved individual stories because. [00:04:00] It is someone's story and I can always see myself in some what they share and the q and a with therapist. It's so informative. Like anytime I hear about something new, you know, I want to learn more about it, like who's written about it, lemme read a book and just so I can just gather as much information that I can.
And that's my drive, which helps me understand people. I understand myself even better. I understand my behavior and my beliefs and yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Tell me about some themes that were coming up for you that made you wanna jump on my podcast and talk about your story and your experience with limiting beliefs.
What are some of the, maybe some of the interviews that you did or some of the things that you've noticed about yourself that made you say, I need to dive into this a little bit deeper.
James: Yeah. For me, with limiting belief is it's like I can do something, but I'm also afraid to do it.
You know?
Dr. Jodi Aman: Could you give us an example?
James: [00:05:00] Like even starting my own podcast, eh, now that came about because someone recommended it, but because a part of me is very insecure, I was like, I can't do that. But I know I can do it, but it's also the voice that's saying that you can't do that. So when that happens, generally I for me, what I do is if I don't act straight away, the voice gets louder and I end up just sitting around and then a week later I'm like, yeah, I could have done that.
So if I don't act on impulse, it's almost like, yeah, if I don't act on impulse, the voice gets louder, I get more stories. You can't do it because X, Y, and Z, like. You don't, you know nothing about podcasts.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Do you know why that happens? Do you wanna know why that happens? Voices. Voices happens because, yeah.
Why you, why the hesitation grows that voice. I'll tell you why, is because our brain is evolved to keep us safe, right? Our brains evolve to keep us safe. We all know [00:06:00] that. And if we hesitate. It's a signal to the brain that something might be wrong. We don't know if there is, but something might be wrong.
So anytime you procrastinate or hesitate or put something off, our brain is signaled. There might be something wrong, James might be in danger. So let's take some time, put the adrenaline out so we could do everything that we need to do and it freezes us even more. So the hesitance. So much of the time, if somebody does something right away without thinking about it.
'cause when we start thinking about it, we think about all excuses not to do something. So there is that aspect of it. We're thinking about all those things. But some of that is because the brain has signaled to your prefrontal cortex to find a problem. And so it is finding excuses and also our adrenaline our hormones shift and our adrenaline comes up.
And that also has us. Hesitating even more [00:07:00] so we could learn that we're safe before we try something and it could have us freezing. So you're like, it's sitting around you said, so I just like to teach about what the mechanism of that is, if it's helpful.
James: Yeah. No it's like now I understand it, but still like, look why you come up.
Like why are you doing, you know, I'm trying to do a good and you trying to. It's almost like it's pulling me back. Like you mentioned as a protection, but it's also like not a good protection.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Exactly. Exactly. It's a protection in case something was dangerous. But these things aren't dangerous. Starting a podcast is not gonna get, it's not a threat to your life.
But your brain doesn't distinguish that. When you hesitate, your brain's job is okay. Take some time and figure out if. This is a threat to James' life, but it's a little bit more than if it was a dangerous situation because there's another mechanism going on is that our brain [00:08:00] has evolved for millions of years to conserve calories in case we don't have enough food.
So when we are, when a attacks, when we, our task comes up for us. Yeah. And our brain is deciding, is this for survival and thriving? And if not, don't do it because we need to conserve calories. So we have this ongoing, it is protection. But it's not necessary anymore because we could, we have food and we don't have to make food and we don't have to hunt, and it takes three days to get food, right?
James: Would that relate to my in a bit? Like indecisiveness is another thing that I. Yeah,
Dr. Jodi Aman: but these things also become a habit, right? So that, yes. So when you're brought with a task and you have to overthink and it things like, it's not a clear answer, this or that, and it feels like we don't, it's not urgent to decide this right now.
So let's wait and see which one is the safer [00:09:00] option, right? So there's a historical evolving mechanism that's going on, but also we. Create a habit of that because maybe we didn't like the choices that we made in the past. We've made choices before and the choices that we made didn't work out.
And so we have this fear like kind of a little trigger about making a choice because what if we regret that choice? So that is really about not trusting oneself, not necessarily consciously. 'cause if you consciously say, I could trust myself. It's a real, that limiting beliefs are often unconscious beliefs.
These limiting beliefs are in there. We could cognitively think the opposite, but the limiting belief is gonna affect us and make us hesitate on decision making 'cause we don't think we're a good decision maker.
James: So there's a deeper hole there, like in my head, oh, I can do it. And then.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah,
James: unconscious.
Like you're not doing that, [00:10:00]
Dr. Jodi Aman: but then it becomes your identity, right? James, you said, you know, I have trouble with the decision making. Like that's how you see yourself. That's a story that you tell of yourself that you have trouble decision making, and now it's a habit, but it's definitely changeable. That doesn't have to be your identity, like who you are.
Just sit right now in this situation in your life, you've created this habit of hesitating on decisions because whatever fear's there that maybe not as obvious, but there's this fear that you might make the wrong one, or if you make it, then you can't have the choice again. You don't have the flexibility anymore.
I was talking to a client recently and I realized this partner, the partner doesn't like to make a decision because they wanna keep the flexibility. The ability to be flexible. Okay. Right. And so that, that's a, it's a whole new take on it. It was like they say, yes, I'll do it. Yes, I'll do it. Yes, I'll do it.
[00:11:00] And they don't do it. They don't follow through on what they've committed to do and for in this circumstance was charge their adult child rent. Right. So they say, yes, I'll do it. Yes, I'll do it, but keep delaying. And it was this fear because this person had to survive in a lot of chaos and they had to survive.
And one of their great coping skills and survival skills that they had was keep flexible as long as you can. So that if you need to shift or pivot, you have that opportunity. If you can't, if you can't believe in and you can't control the people around you, and all of a sudden you have to pivot, you want that ability as long as possible.
It doesn't serve him in this circumstance, but in the past, in so much of his life and has served him. And so he keeps that
James: identity,
Dr. Jodi Aman: keeps that
habit, if that makes sense. Okay. I'm sorry, I want talk about you some more.
James: Yeah. No, it's. Different stories definitely helps bring [00:12:00] it and
helps.
Dr. Jodi Aman: It gives us a distance to see ourself if we hear another story, even if it's a concept and it's not the same thing that we've done.
When we hear a story and the concept we have that distance. 'cause it's not us, we're not like beating ourself up in the moment and we could really get stuff in a new way. Right.
James: Yeah. It's really like, oh.
Even different
like yeah, I do that too. Just different way. Like
Dr. Jodi Aman: yeah. Right. It's a different belief, but it's working on you the same way as it works on him, you know?
James: Yeah. It is demeaning. Yeah, like that. It's weird how I, like, I would identify with that, but like now I've learned I've, I'm learning that like it's not really, it is a story, but I dunno how to shift that story yet. And. I dunno how to rewrite new story yet.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah, I love the word yet because that right away starts to deconstruct the truth of what, of that you are a bad decision maker, okay?
[00:13:00] Right. So when you say yet you're open, and that might be from the podcast that you've done and the interviews that you've done, that you realize that. I can do this. I just haven't figured it out yet. And that is like the first step. It's like opening to an idea that this story doesn't have to stay exactly like it is.
And the story is not a truth, right? It's not truth about who you are, that you're a bad decision maker, or you no procrastinate decisions.
James: No. Yeah. That's correct. Yeah. Yeah. One thing I've learned. Sorry, but you
Dr. Jodi Aman: said it about yourself. You know, I'm, I delayed making decisions or something. So there's, we need to keep, it sounds like you started to deconstruct it and you're ready to go the rest of the way and then learn how to switch it the other way.
James: Yeah. Yeah. The process, it's always the fun part. And another thing that I've learned through talking to people is like that for me. I am real careful about how I [00:14:00] say things about myself, as in what I mean is the voices in my head. Like I've learned that they're not actually me. They're just voices that are coming up.
So what I practice doing is having a conversation with them. It's not always great, but it's just like, why can't I make decision? Like who's actually running the show at the moment? In my head before it just would've been my story.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. That's brilliant. That's really brilliant because you're witnessing these negative thoughts.
Yeah. Instead of just taking them at face value, just taking them at the limiting belief that they are they're not a truth anymore. You're able to start to be like who is saying that? Right, so you're like in a different state. Instead of it just being true, you are questioning in a way, I call it a witnessing state.
Okay? You have this awareness of them. Now they're not just like integrated and they just work. You just assume them. [00:15:00] You're like, who is saying that I can't make this decision? Or who is, where's that fear that if I choose this, that I lose the opportunity to choose the other thing or something, whatever, you know?
James: I recently last week I started college again.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Ooh. Like
James: that. I'm, yeah. Fun fun. I'm studying in personal and business coaching,
Dr. Jodi Aman: right?
James: Yeah. So like that, the voice comes on again. It's like, you can't do this. Then someone said to me last, he was like, yeah, but you're turning up to the class.
And I'm like, yeah. So why do I still think like, I can't do this? Like that. That's just another voice I have to talk to. It's like, where are these thoughts coming from?
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. Was there somebody or some, something in the past that you didn't have faith that you could get through it or didn't have, or didn't have faith in you, criticized you or?
James: Yeah, like for me, I think a lot of it comes from criticism and lack of [00:16:00] encouragement.
Dr. Jodi Aman: And you don't have to say who it is 'cause you know, you have a public face on here, but was there somebody that you know, that did that criticism, like criticized you?
James: Yeah, like it would be in my childhood it's more lack of encouragement that I didn't really get or like that, like for kids, they need encouragement.
It's more like I didn't get that encouragement. It was more criticism. So now I'm just kind of criticizing myself and even with,
Dr. Jodi Aman: but do you notice that some of the words that you're using to criticize yourself or assess yourself or judge yourself, are they similar to the words that this person or these people used to criticize you?
James: No, they're not the same words, but I think that's because it's changed over the years. But I know deep down there would've [00:17:00] been a lot of criticism unless appraisal, like even now, if someone gives me an appraisal for something, like I get triggered because it's unfamiliar for me.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah, so often I had a teacher tell me one time that if you compliment somebody and they're like, oh no, it was nothing.
No. That person needs it so much more. They need compliments, they need acknowledgement. They need someone to see them because they, you know, that rejection of the compliment means that they're uncomfortable 'cause they didn't get it enough. And I always thought, I always remembered that and I thought it was so beautiful.
We are so quick to tell people what's wrong, or like a company, we're working with a company and they've bothered us and we complain. But we really have to practice telling people what they've done. Good. Yeah. I think we do that enough, you know?
James: No, we don't. And so
Dr. Jodi Aman: what about you? I often tell people they do this practice, and I love this practice and I love it for [00:18:00] you.
Is that what if every night you wrote, and maybe you have a gratitude practice already, but you could write down three things that you're grateful for. But in addition to that, I want you to write down three things that you did. Okay. Lemme write this down. Yeah, that's great. So three things that you did that day.
Yeah, and there are things that you've taken initiative on because we need you to start to notice the skills that you have. You have them, you're using them, but you're discarding them. You're saying they're not much, everyone should have them. You're not really giving yourself a lot of kudos for the things that you're doing, and so we need to put a practice in to start to have you notice that you are skilled, like you're so skilled.
Because you're rejecting all the thing, you're showing up for class, you signed up for it, you applied, you got accepted. You know, you've moved things in your life to make space for this. You've done a lot already. That makes a [00:19:00] good student. You're interested and you know, you're not giving yourself any kudos for any of that it sounds like.
James: No. That's something. That I struggle with as well. And yeah,
Dr. Jodi Aman: and that's a limiting belief too, James. It's a limiting belief that I, that's maybe make, makes you a big head or it gives you too much overconfidence or something if you say nice things about yourself or if you pat yourself on the back for the things that you do, you know?
It's like you gotta be more humble. Maybe that's the belief. You should be humble or something. And pride could be, you know. Not good but the, like a grounded belief in yourself and faith in yourself, that kind of pride is good.
James: Yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: But that limiting belief, I think that might be in there is you don't wanna get too cocky, you know?
You have to stay humble. Nobody likes someone who's cocky. Big [00:20:00] head, big Adam himself. You know, those kind of things might be in there from these criticisms in the past. That makes you wanna stay. Hu your energy is very humble, like a beautiful, humble, but but you don't need to, you, you don't need to over humble and self-sabotage with that.
James: Yeah. Yeah. Like you mentioned, I don't like surface reflect in the way you said it. Like, 'cause it's like that when someone tell me like, oh, you did this great thing and I just like, I just don't, I'm not saying it, but it's like nothing is ing.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. They're, you're like what? I didn't, yeah. You know, everyone could do that, or I didn't really, or I don't know how you just got lucky.
Whatever excuse you have, the fact that you accomplished something that the other person's noticing. And and so this practice of writing three things down every night that you did, and it could be emptying the dishwasher or or making that call that's been on your list for a [00:21:00] while and you're doing stuff all the time.
You're doing tons of stuff, but how do you, if you work full time right, and have the podcast, you're going to school now. I mean, it's so much stuff that you're doing and it feels like you maybe, and I'm, this is hyperbole. I'm sure you cognitively know you're doing that stuff, but you're not giving yourself any kudos.
Not taking some time to celebrate and be like, say I did it. That's not cocky. That's not over, no, that's not self-centered. No. It's really grounded. It's you connecting with your agency and feeling more empowered. You'll be more grounded. It's not like up here of like, I gotta show them that I'm worthy.
That's not where you're doing, you know?
James: Yeah. I think definitely that's something I need to practice.
Dr. Jodi Aman: And when you're grounded like that, people are attracted because they feel safe with you.
James: I
Dr. Jodi Aman: think people already [00:22:00] feel safe with you. Correct.
James: I like to think so. Yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. You have the energy.
I think people feel very safe with you, so that's really nice.
James: Maybe one of the ways to combat my beliefs is to start reflecting on the good things that I'm doing. Even the simple things. Yes. And simple things. Even
Dr. Jodi Aman: the simple things. We figured out how to connect. Before we started this recording, we were trying to connect his phone to the to the Riverside the software that we use to record.
But you know, if you get it at the next time you're recording something, it's probably gonna work. But the next time give yourself kudos for that, even if it's little.
James: Yeah. Yeah, I need to start turning that around to myself. Like, I'll say, I'll give someone the advice, but then when it comes to me, it's like there's a freeze there somewhere. And
Dr. Jodi Aman: yeah. Yeah. Treat yourself like you love yourself, right? Treat yourself. Be a coach to yourself. Be a kind to [00:23:00] yourself. Notice like you're amazing.
You're amazing. So often we notice all the things that we're not doing instead of noticing all the things that we are doing.
James: Yeah. Yeah. I think like that, like my mind would always go to you, just, I'll do something good and then be like, oh, but you have to do this. Then you have to do that. And yeah, so it's hard for me to just sit back, stop, take a
Dr. Jodi Aman: pregnant pause.
James: Stop
Dr. Jodi Aman: after you do a task, stop and take a pregnant pause and be like, all right, I did it. And what happens is you get invigorated, you get a burst of energy from that celebration. It's that little, I mean, I'm not talking about, you know, call your friends. I'm awesome. I mean, yeah, you'll never be like that, but, and that's not what we're going for.
It's, this is grounded. Like I trust myself. I believe in myself. So you're like, I did that and it feels good 'cause you're done with it, but it also [00:24:00] feels good that you did it and it's gonna give you the energy for the next task. But if you are finished a task, you're like, oh my gosh, I need to get to all these other things.
Even just thinking of that and worrying about is gonna zap your energy for the next task.
James: Yeah. It's definitely a practice for me. It's definitely a practice and yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: So tell me what else about limiting beliefs that you might wanna know about before we end today, or self-sabotage.
James: Yeah, like I was saying, for me it was more like if I act on impulse, I'm good. If I don't act on impulse and I'm not gonna do anything the voices come on. But when I act on impulse, it's it's strange because. When I get into something like the, let's say the podcast for example, once I made it, then I'm good.
And it's just like, yeah, the voice stops and then it's almost like the voice start helping as well, you know, that way it's like, oh, how can we make this better?
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. But [00:25:00] it's only
James: if, I mean, that's only if I'm in impulse like if I'm just acting. But if I'm you do it without thinking too much.
Yeah. If I'm thinking, then they start feeling of something like. It's also the belief like, oh, you don't deserve, and
Dr. Jodi Aman: yeah,
James: to do this, all those
Dr. Jodi Aman: things come after, right? Because your, yeah, mind, your prefrontal cortex is trying to look for a problem. So it's gonna act like you're terrible, act like this is not worth it's not gonna be success, so it's gonna make up all that stuff.
But this is the work at Mel Robbins and she wrote a book she wrote several books on anxiety, and she's a big influencer speaker, but she does this thing. Her concept or her thing that she teaches is 3, 2, 1, go. Like there's a rocket ship on the front of our book. Yeah. But if you have trouble getting outta bed or you're trouble starting, you don't, you do this practice in order to stop that overthinking that has us procrastinating and you just do 3, 2, 1, go [00:26:00] and just start something.
Just start. Even if it's not starting the whole thing, if it's starting a couple steps, like getting your phone hooked up, getting the lights on in the room, that you're gonna record in reaching out to somebody to verify they're coming on, whatever. If you just do 3, 2, 1, go, no matter where, what time that you so if you go on impulse and do it, you're fine.
If you wait and hesitate and finally do it, you're fine once you start. But anytime in that process. If you're just saying, I gotta do it now, then do it. And if you realize later on that you've been pro procrastinating in your head about it, sometimes you're not aware of it and all it's happening and you're like, oh, I'm doing it again.
At any point in that process of you doing that, you could go 3, 2, 1, and then start to take some kind of action and do something. And it doesn't have to be for the podcast necessarily. It could be [00:27:00]cleaning your counter off. Yeah. Because that gets you going. Right? Clean your desk off you know, take a shower to get your energy moving.
It could be any of those things that is gonna prime you, prime the pump to then do that project. So it doesn't have to be that project yet. But the stillness and being the overthinking in your head is like, there's nothing there for you as soon as you realize you're there. 3, 2, 1, go and go into something.
James: And do you think that once I start like that, self-reflecting on the good things that I'm doing, even the small things that might help me. With a negative voice, slow down a bit to realize like, oh no, we are actually good.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Exactly. Because it's like whatever you pay attention to, you're going to fill your life with.
So whatever you're paying attention to. So if you start every night writing down three of those things, then during the day you're trying [00:28:00] to find the things that you're gonna write down later and after a while, and it might only take a couple weeks or a month after a while doing it. All day long.
Everything that you do, you're gonna say, I can write this down. It's gonna help you bring awareness into noticing all the things that you do so you're spending more time and attention noticing the things that you do. And there's obviously gonna be less intention, attention looking and thinking about the things that you haven't done yet, or worrying about those, or all the excuses that you might have to not do those.
That's there's gonna be less and less time for that. Less habit of that because the habit's gonna switch to finding the things that you're do doing. Yeah. Despite how busy you are, despite how hard things are despite, you know, how hard it was to figure out how to do it. Yeah. That's gonna be the new focus and absolutely it's gonna change that negative voice and it's not gonna replace it with, I'm the best person in [00:29:00] the world.
That's a mask. You know, that's an overcompensation for people not feeling good. You're gonna actually feel good. And it's gonna be a grounded feeling. Good. Yes. And you're just gonna be, you know, people are gonna love to be around you and and you're gonna be able to help a lot of people, but not feel frazzled, not feel down on yourself.
It's a practice.
James: Yeah. Yeah. De definitely for me. Yeah. Like I mentioned, because it's something that. I never really had, so I don't know how to even receive it. So this is a, yeah, this is a big practice for me and yeah, but it's possible. And surround
Dr. Jodi Aman: yourself with people who see you because you are an amazing human being, and I want you to have everyone around you see how amazing you are.
If there is some people in your life that criticize you or don't see you or neglect you or something, you know, you don't have to kick them outta your life. You can, but spend more time with the people who see [00:30:00] you and how great you are.
James: Yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. That's gonna help that too.
James: A hundred percent. Yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. Yeah. Hopefully in school you'll have some new colleagues and new co students. Yeah. New friends that are just gonna be great and they're gonna lift you up and I'm so glad and you're gonna be such a resource to your future clients because you're figuring this stuff out for yourself, and this is what people struggle with.
And so when you get it, even knowing that you're, what you could do with it, once you start to practice that and let go of these habits of this negative self-talk, it's gonna feel really good. 'cause you know you're gonna make a real impact on the world that way.
James: Like even this practice, once I start making that shift, I couldn't even use it.
Right. I was like a couple of years ago.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yep. You can, you could definitely, when you have clients, you could use this for exercise. You could tell 'em to do this. You don't even [00:31:00] have to say my name, but you can.
James: I spoke to Dr. Jody one first, and I, she gave me this exercise and it worked for me. So I'm passing it on to you now.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Like, here's her website.
James: Yeah. Go and check it out. Yeah. Yeah.
Dr. Jodi Aman: What a pleasure it's been to get to know you a little bit more. You know, last time we talked, you were interviewing me about my work and this, so this has been really nice getting to know you and really feeling into, you know, this, the goodness that you are and the amazing person that you are.
James: Thank you. I can't wait to, you see what
Dr. Jodi Aman: I see.
James: It's different being on this side. I really
Dr. Jodi Aman: appreciate you doing it. You know, it's to be vulnerable in public is a little hard but I think a, I think this episode is thing is we've talked about things that a lot of people could find helpful.
James: Yeah. No it's a pleasure. I figured since I always ask people [00:32:00] questions, maybe it's good for someone to ask me questions for a change.
Dr. Jodi Aman: Yeah. It's been a pleasure, so I thank you so much and everyone who's watching online, I'm online live every Monday at 8:00 PM so come on over. You could watch me live and ask me questions.
You could also sign up to be a guest on the show, and James has his camera on, but most of my calling guests don't have their camera on. They're just calling from their phone and talking to me and telling me about their life. And I do live coaching right here on my show. Ask Dr. Jody. So I will see you next week at 8:00 PM but in the meantime, be you and let the you that you wanna be shine through. [00:33:00]